As wedding planners, we work with a wide variety of couples. Each set has their own lives ahead of them and also their own agenda to prepare as they enter into this new life and this new beginning as husband and wife. 

For many of our couples, we have the experience of sharing in this journey with them and taking them through these times that are not necessarily just about planning a wedding but also planning trips, rerouting homes and traveling on the regular. Janay and Jamil are the epitome of that and a relationship experience that we feel it is important to highlight for those that are going through similar experiences like theirs. Keep reading for this Q&A from Janay Lampkin, future Mrs. Douglas. Drop a comment if you have any questions for Janay.

Tell us about yourself and your relationship, how long have you been dating? 

Jamil and I are “college sweethearts” and have been together for 8 years! We met early on in college and the rest was history. We’ve been together through degrees, career changes, pitfalls and promotions. It really feels like two relationships wrapped up in one. It’s been a wild ride but I wouldn’t change one detail.

 

How many times have you moved throughout your relationship? 

Whew. this is a triggering question 🙂 I think between the two of us we’ve moved once per year throughout our entire relationship. Keep in mind, throughout college we moved within the same city. We didn’t start moving to new states until our careers forced us to. So in the last 5 years we’ve moved once during season and then typically we spend off seasons in AZ — I’ve lost count, okay? 🙂

How many times have you moved since being engaged? 

Twice!

Has moving interfered in wedding planning at all? If so, please explain (setting dates, scheduling important wedding planning meetings, juggling daily routines, etc). 

Honestly, not as much as you’d think. At first, it took us some time to get used to ALL of the moving pieces but having BTS has helped us to really put the entire process into perspective. We got engaged literally weeks before camp, so I pretty much knew that there would be minimal planning until season was well underway. We’ve really embraced shared calendars, deadlines, and he’s been the best brainstorming partner. Ladies: let your man weigh in on the different details, it’s actually way more fun that way!

 

Aside from moving, have you experienced any other life changes during your engagement period (job changes, family happenings, baby planning, new pets)? How have those life changes impacted wedding planning? 

I decided to leave the corporate style career and explore my industry as a full-time digital marketing + content consultant so that I could be remote and full time be physically in the same place as my Fiancé. By the time we were engaged, I was pretty accustomed to fully working remotely and was in a pretty good routine. about 2 months into our engagement we found out we were being signed to TN so I essentially hit the pause button on wedding stuff so I could pack up a five-bedroom house and get us settled in a brand new city. But looking back, wedding planning was made so much easier with planners, It was stressful but so doable.

What are the biggest challenges in juggling regular life and wedding planning? 

Wedding planning really started to pick up in off-season (Thank God) so we’ve been so blessed to be in the same city as our planners making meetings and communication 10x easier. There is a lot of decision making so it’s been tricky to just hone in on one decision while also continuing to be conscious of budgets. I would say one big challenge that I wasn’t expecting are all of the opinions. If you are a natural “people pleaser” wedding planning will be challenging at first. But eventually, you get really good at focusing on what you and your partner value most and just shrugging your shoulders at all the other noise.

 

While moving around, have you and your partner had to deal with long-distance? 

Very, very brief long-distance (2 months max). Football is definitely a year-round thing so there are definitely a few weeks where he will have to go back for training and I hold down the fort with our dog and coordinate the visits so that can eliminate all of the unnecessary logistics that come with dog parenting. We’ve found our groove so it really doesn’t feel like a chore at this point!

What is the biggest struggle with moving around often, wedding planning, work-life balance and maintaining a healthy relationship? How do you overcome the challenges that come along with the above? 

Over communicating, checking in, and communicating some more. There are so many moving pieces and deadlines and task lists. You can probably tell by now that I am VERY type-A. I live for a shared calendar, to-do list, and planner and legit have to remind myself to check in with myself and my fiancé. Checking in on each other is something we’ve always prioritized and I truly believe it’s made the process so much more stress-free.

 

What are you most looking forward to after the wedding? 

The marriage part 🙂 While the wedding planning process has been very exciting and special, we are both so much more excited to just be married and to pour into our union and family.

 

What advice do you think your partner would give to other grooms in the same situation?
ha! He would probably say there are a ton of deadlines and lots of money spent so plan accordingly and enjoy the ride 🙂

What is the best advice for other brides going through the same or similar changes that you have or are going through? 

To remind yourself that It’s a blessing. Whether you are having a giant wedding with a guest list of 300 or a more intimate wedding with less than 100 people, it’s about you and your person. As long as you are both present, happy and celebrating each other and this amazing life change, it will all come together no matter the cross-country move, curveball, or life change!

 

We hope feel like you’re a part of Janay’s journey. We can’t wait to share more details with you on her venue, decor and so much more. Don’t forget to head over to She Said Yes podcast to listen to Janay’s episode! 

 

 

As a bride, there are so many items on your checklist that you will want to cross out the month leading up to the wedding but in preparation for the 30-day countdown, let’s make our own list so that you can stay on track with your self-love prior to the big day!

Here are our top ten things to make sure you check off your list:

 

Exfoliate and brighten up that face 

You want to make sure you are GLOWING on your wedding day. This is not something you want to start on the week of the wedding. Begin your face care practice well in advance so you know exactly what your skin can take. The last thing you will want walking down the aisle is a breakout or big red rash! Consult with your aesthetician for the best plan for you!

 

Paws and Claws

Head to the salon or pick out a few of your top color picks! Give yourself some time to wear the color before you commit to the wedding. Once you decide, get those paws and claws done days before.

 

To Tan or Not to Tan! 

Your wedding week isn’t the time to get a spray tan for the first time, ever. If you are wanting that tan look for your wedding day, look into getting one prior to gauge if it’s a yes or a no.

 

Pamper Those Pearly Whites

I say this word just like my daughter, big smile and all pearls showing. NOTHING is worse than getting pictures and your teeth are looking a little yellow. This is not just for the ladies but for the hubs to be as well. Make an appointment with your dentist to get a quick clean up and whitening or make a pact to complete those crest white strips. A little effort goes a LONNNGGGG way here.

 

Botox Babe 

Full believers over here of a smooth forehead and no lines. Botox takes at least 5 days to kick in fully. If you have a regimen already started, contact your specialist and see if you can get in early to make sure your wrinkles are no more. If this is your first time, give yourself time! 30 days in advance is perfect.

 

Get Those Hair Color Touch Ups

Only you know how fast your hair grows and if you have an extreme amount of color growth, it’s probably the time to get things figured out. Highlights or retouches, they are so important – do this about 7-10 days out.

 

Eat Cleaner 

Now, this isn’t something that is new to people. If you haven’t really been following a plan during the months leading up to the big day, make sure you figure this out 30 days in advance. Don’t hold back, eat what you want but at the same time, keep it in moderation. The goal is not to starve yourself, the goal is to feel good, right? Good food makes you feel good–Promise!

 

Exercise Consistently

1 and 2 and 3 and 4 and get them sit ups right and . . . move ya body! Get in the gym, go out for a walk, take a hike, swim, bike, etc. You don’t need to have long sessions, 30 minutes is great but a little goes a long way in feeling sexy. We have a workout plan you can download if you’re looking for some gym workouts. You can find our program here! Here’s a tip. Do it with your bridesmaids, they’ll love it! 

 

I Do Thrive


Get Some Sleep
7-8 hours of sleep per night is known for many things; controls hunger, it helps your immune system’s functionality, and memory retention just to name a few. All of these being important for your wedding day. Set schedules, get a new pillow if you need, cool down that bedroom and get those hours in!

 

Stay Hydrated
1. Helps prevent hangovers
2. Helps with weight loss
3. Increases energy levels
4. Helps maximize physical performance 😉

 

Which of these items on our checklist do you need to work on more for your big day? Comment below!

 

BTS Bride, Jaylee

When was the last time you Insta or YouTube stalked one of those relationships that have the most fairytale-esk proposal stories, that just make you wanna cry tears of joy? Well, we’ve got one for you today! Jaylee is a former ASU Spirit Squad member who found herself mutual friends with and crushing on, wait for it… a SUN DEVIL FOOTBALL PLAYER (cue the heart eye emojis and 90s Rom-Com music)! Michael and Jaylee hung out here and there, ran into each other at a lot of school events and then realized that they grew up in the same city back in California and had a TON of mutual friends! Told ya it was like a fairytale!

Jaylee was a guest on our podcast She Said Yes, and served us ALL off the juicy details, including how Michael was able to surprise her with their dream proposal location. Here’s the kicker, she didn’t have one clue that he was proposing. There’s nothing like a genuinely surprised bride-to-be, so touche Michael!

Because we knew you just couldn’t get enough of their love story, we decided to ask the Bride a few more pre-wedding questions to help you get to know her a bit more, as we showcase our experience during her planning process. Let’s dive into her head to see what this process has been like for her so far!

BTS: Do you feel different now that you’re a fiancé?

Jaylee: Honestly, no! We’ve been together for about five and a half years and every day gets better and better. I truly think it’s weird calling him my fiancé … I always call him my boyfriend still (be)cause it feels like too fancy of a word for me. I can’t wait to call him my husband though, that I have no problem saying!

BTS: What are you most excited about for your wedding day?

Jaylee: Cliche, but I’m so excited to walk down the aisle and see Michael’s reaction. We aren’t doing a first look so I think this will be a really special moment. I’m also just super excited to be surrounded by 250 people that we absolutely love and adore that want to celebrate US!

BTS: What celebrity wedding did you love and why?

Jaylee: Oooo tough question (be)cause I don’t follow too many celebrity weddings, but I do love Morgan Stewart’s wedding. She had the right amount of simple and over the top, which is what I’m trying to do. And the clean all white look, I love that too, but I’m trying to add a little more flavor than just all white.

BTS: Does your ring have a nickname?

Jaylee: People do this?! My ring does not have a nickname, but I must say it is my BABY. I clean it at least once a week because I never get tired of that fresh sparkle. Maybe I should think of a name though … honestly, no name would ever do it justice!

BTS: Will you be having any pre-wedding parties? If so, do you have anything planned already?

Jaylee: Yes! We’re going to do an engagement party sometime this summer as just a fun way to get everyone excited for the wedding. It won’t be anything too extravagant. Think of it more as an excuse to hang with our friends and celebrate being engaged again. I did a long engagement for a reason, it only happens once so celebrate as much as you can!

BTS: Is your wedding day something you’ve been dreaming about for a long time (the typical little girl playing dress up for her wedding)?

Jaylee: YES. I have definitely been dreaming of this day my whole life. My friends and I used to play “wedding” when we were little. I was also a flower girl in a couple of weddings and remember thinking the bride was so pretty and how I couldn’t wait to be that girl one day. I’ve had Pinterest boards for years and have been saving wedding inspo on Instagram since it was possible to even start saving photos. My style has changed a little bit, but I have no problem continuing to look for wedding photos and inspiration whenever I get the opportunity.

BTS: Do you think your hubby-to-:be will let you have full control over planning, or will he be hands-on in the process?

Jaylee: He likes to act like I have full control, but whenever I show him ideas he always throws in his two cents. It’s pretty cute. He also has little things he really wants to happen on our wedding day so I’ll be sure to make those happen. He will definitely want to try all the food too, that he definitely won’t miss out on!

BTS: What do you imagine your bridal style being like?

Jaylee: My bridal style is all over the place. That’s why I have my (BTS) wedding planners to help me hone in on a style. But I like clean and modern with elegance. I don’t like the luxurious/glam feel. I want people to feel comfortable and like there truly is just a feeling of love and closeness. We’re doing an estate wedding, so I feel like that helps bring those styles/vibes.

We hope now you feel like you’re a little part of Jaylee’s journey. We can’t wait to share more details with you regarding her venue, decor and so much more! Don’t forget to head over to She Said Yes podcast to listen to Jaylee’s episode and completely melt over the way she talks about her relationship!

Remember how Mary (Jennifer Lopez) in The Wedding Planner crosses the street and gets her high heel stuck in a manhole? Working through an entire wedding in heels is painful & totally not how real-life wedding planners dress!

 

The 5 Commandments of Wedding Planners:

  • Go for comfortable but cute and trendy
  • Always invest in stylish flats
  • All black always
  • Pants & crops are key and look amazing with flats but there are some cute professional dresses that’ll fit the job too!
  • Ditch the denim. You want to aim for a stylish & professional look.

So if you’re wondering how to follow these guidelines so you look & feel like the boss babe you are, get your weekly dose of inspo below.

The Liam Pant

You don’t have to hide your figure when opting for pants. These are a go-to for wedding planners who want to elegantly embrace their feminine silhouette without stealing the show. Plus that flattering high-rise fit makes for a modern & sophisticated look.

Crepe Long Sleeve Jumpsuit

Hate the stress that comes with searching for a matching top and bottom? Neither do we. If you want to make your decision as simple yet stylish as possible, opt for this long sleeve jumpsuit. It’s elasticized waist and flowy fabric will keep you comfy and looking amazing as you’re running around, working your magic, and making wedding dreams come true.

 

Limited Edition Buttoned Pants

For the more classic ladies who appreciate a little touch of retro, these high-waisted pants are a must! The front pockets will make sure you have everything you need at reach and the inner side vents will keep you fresh during the hustle & bustle of a wedding day.

 

Limited edition Blouse With Balloon Sleeves

Perfect for wedding planner going for a retro chic look while also looking for some extra coverage to stay warm & cozy.  The high collar, wide cuffs, and shoulder detail take this blouse from basic to ultra-sophisticated. Pair it with the fitted limited edition pants for a super stylish look.

 

Halogen Sabrina Collapsible Back Flat

These minimalist slippers are perfect when you’re running around. Plus, the collapsible back makes it so versatile and comfy. The last thing any wedding planner wants are sore feet! This pair of shoes feels like a dream and matches beautifully with any black outfit.

 

Which of these would you wear or mix and match? Tell us in the comments below!

 

Destination weddings are becoming more and more popular, especially amongst our brides. Why? It’s simple. The beauty of the location. One issue brides run into when planning a destination wedding is searching for the location. We frequent Cabo–for work–not for play. Lol. So we’ve broken down a list of our four favorite Cabo wedding venues, in no particular order. Take a look!

Acre

Unlike most of the venues on this list, Acre is a venue, not a resort. They did, however, add in some tree house bungalows for guests to stay in. This venue is perfect for a boho, hipster kind of bride. Take a look at these amazing pictures. We’re positive you’ll love it too!

 

The Cape

If you’re a modern bride, who loves the desert, the Cape is the venue for you. If the desert and the ocean got married and had a baby, The Cape Hotel would be that baby. Don’t just take our word for it, see for yourself.

 

Grand Velas

If you’re looking for a higher-end option, the Grand Velas is your go-to. It does come at a higher price point, but it is an all-inclusive experience complete with high end culinary and top-shelf liquor only. The vibe of this venue is modern, pretty and minimalistic. Check out the photos of this beautiful venue.

 

 

 

Resort at Pedregal

This venue screams luxury and natural beauty. We’re obsessed and we know you will be too. If exclusivity is your thing, this venue is not a step-and-repeat type of venue. Just take a look for yourself.

Ladies, if you’re planning a destination wedding in Cabo, let us know in the comments which of these four venues you’d choose for your big day.

 

XOXO,

BTS

Yes, we frequent Cabo. No, we’re not dual citizens. Yes, Cabo may be one of our top five destination wedding locations. As we recap one of our most beautiful Cabo weddings, we’re about to show you why!

As destination wedding planners, we typically work hundreds of miles away from our couples and wedding locations but have been able to master systems to make this process as smooth as possible.  

A few months ago, we had a Father of Bride contact us, who was actually a guest at one of our previous weddings and desperately needed some help getting his daughter’s wedding in order.  They originally hired a company out in Cabo to handle their wedding planning and design and faced a couple of rough obstacles, which consumed a lot of their wedding planning time.

We were more than happy to step in and assist with re-doing a few things that had already been done but didn’t meet the standards of our couple, as well as wrapping up a lot of loose ends that needed tending too. This was a lot of hard work for our team but the perfect results were worth every second of It. We were able to really get to know the bride and her family and create a wedding setting and timeline for the night that fit their needs just perfectly.  

This Cabo wedding was nothing short of amazing.  With a pink, black and white color palette, we were able to design the wedding of our bride’s dreams.  Check out the images and vendors that helped make this happen below!

Vendors:

Design and Coordination: Yours Truly (@btseventmanagement)!
Photographer: @sararichardsonphoto
Venue: @thecapehotel
Flowers: @areteflorals
Rentals: @delcaboeventdesign

The longest battle of all time–paper vs. electronic invites. As industry professionals, we’re more than familiar with this debate. Before you get worked up, we’re here to let you know that we’re not choosing sides. We’re merely informing you of the pros and cons for both. Brace yourselves, because if you think you’re married to one over the other *pun intended*, after reading through, you may have a change of heart.

Paper Invites

Up first, paper invites. This is definitely the traditional route. With technology taking over most forms of communication, paper invites give off that more personal feel. We think people actually miss getting fun pretty announcements like a wedding invitation in the mail. Below is a list of pros we’ve gathered for using paper invites.

Pros

  • You can beautifully customize your own design.
  • They can be used as a keepsake, something you look back on every anniversary.
  • Keeping the tradition alive.

Cons  

  • The costs–it’s a pretty pricey penny to send out paper invites via mail.
    The average cost to send out invites for a guest list for 150, which is around 75 invites, is around $1350. This includes tax, design, print, and stamps.
  • Can be viewed as a waste of money when looking at the overall wedding budget because often times guests throw the invite away.
  • Not economically friendly. You know, save some paper and you’ll save some trees.

Electronic Invites

Finally, electronic invites. Will people judge your electronic invites? Sure, some may. But don’t put much value in their prejudices. We like to think we live in understanding times. At the end of the day, nobody should fault you if you want to save money on the invitations in order to pay more for better food, better music, better floral arrangements or even better honeymoon. Let’s be real! Below are the pros of having electronic invitations.

Pros

  • Easy to send and respond to.
  • Easy to keep track.
  • Guests are more apt to quickly respond.
  • No need to worry about mail service delays or old addresses.
  • You can add cool components like video and music.

Cons

  • Can be viewed as impersonal.
  • Not easy for older generations to respond to.
  • Not tangible to save as a keepsake.
  • Can be viewed as inelegant.

As wedding planners, we tend to recommend going with paper invitations. There is just something about the look and feel of these beauties that is incomparable when comparing the two. On the other hand, we have had great success with electronic invites and would have to say the best options is definitely dependant on the specific situation. What types of invites are you sending out? Let us know in the comments!  

 

As women, after we find the outfit we’re used to spicing it up with the perfect accessories. The same is true for your wedding gown. This is why our brides often ask us, “Do I need to carry a purse on my wedding day?”  The answer is yes AND no. Here’s why. Let’s be clear, you won’t need to be carrying around a cross body over your gown during your wedding festivities. But there are a few important, and often looked over, reasons why we do recommend at least purchasing a clutch for the big day. 

First is You’ll need a clutch because it makes for an amazingly detailed shot. But also, when you do the money dance, what better place to put your money than in the five-star clutch you bought specifically for your wedding? Another reason is the after party! Many of our brides have gone out or had a small after party AFTER reception. This is totally common. So why not join the party in style with your clutch in hand. Finally and in case your maid of honor hasn’t thought of this already, you’ll need a clutch to keep things like phone, room key, lipstick, blotting papers, and gum/mints all in one place.

Below is a rundown on two of our absolute favorite clutches for brides. The first is Saint Laurent and can be used even after the wedding. Tip: when convincing your husband to add this to the wedding purchases, just say it’s reusable, and won’t be for one day only. You can find this clutch here.

The second is wedding specific, but if you get it early enough, you can wear it for all your wedding festivities like your engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party and for the day of the wedding. This bridal clutch is by Show Me Your MuMu and you can find it here!

Will you be rocking a clutch on your wedding day? Is it any of these? If not, let us know where you got yours from. We’re always excited to add new bridal related designers to our list. If you need help picking out a bridal clutch for your wedding day, shoot us an email at info@btseventmanagement.com.

On this week’s episode of the She Said Yes Podcast, we’re talking about everything that should happen in the last month of wedding planning! We know that this can be  a very stressful time and we want to help you get through it all. So make sure you take a listen.

But before we get to our recap of what last minute things you should prepare for during the last month of wedding planning, be sure to follow us on Instagram, subscribe to our channel, and show us some love in the iTunes reviews.

Just to give you a couple hints on what last minute things we’re touching on this week’s episode, you can expect to hear about the following:

  • RSVPs and how they change.
  • When you should print wedding documents, i.e., menus, itineraries, ect.
  • When you should rearrange tables.
  • How to handle out of town guest when you have 100,000,000 other things to worry about.
  • When to prepare or when to delegate.
  • When to create welcome packages for guests.

Sticking with the theme of last-minute wedding planning details, one question we get all the time is “When should I get my spray tan?” This is why we have celebrity spray tanner, Brittney from @bebronzestudio. She’s answering all your spray tanning questions.

Before we let you go, have you heard Mariah Carey is selling her 35-carat engagement ring? Yes, crazy right? On this episode, we’re talking about what we would do if we were in Mariah Carey’s shoes. Tune in to hear our answers–they’re kinda funny.

After you listen, let us know what you think about this week’s episode in the comments.

 

XOXO,

BTS

 

 

Bridal stylist is not a term you hear often when you think of wedding planning. The first vendors that come to mind are florists, photographers, videographers, or even wedding planners. The bridal stylist is largely overlooked. But weddings with a stylist are largely vital

We have an affinity for fashion, so it’s no surprise to us that the weddings of the brides, who hire a bridal stylist are often the most praised, for the complete look of the wedding. Because we hate seeing the bridal stylist get overlooked when hiring vendors to help you on your wedding day, we came up with three reasons why you should hire a bridal stylist.

As you go through the list, we’ll show you some of our favorite fashion-forward BTS weddings.

1. cut out the noise when saying yes to the dress

Have you heard the phrase, “too many chefs in the kitchen”? It’s when too many people are trying to control or influence a situation. This is what we recommend staying away from when the bride is saying “yes, to the dress.”

Finding the perfect dress is already stressful enough.  You’re trying to find the dress you haven’t already seen a bride wear. The dress that matches your wedding venue. The dress that compliments your body. The dress that doesn’t overshadow the groom. With so many things to consider, too many chefs in the kitchen can lead you into choosing a dress for the wrong reasons.

Entrusting a bridal stylist with searching for the right gown for you is a decision we can’t speak more highly of. It streamlines the process, may open your eyes to designs and designers you haven’t thought of, and so much more.

2. help the groom

Now, to be clear. All grooms are not fashionably-challenged. We’ve had many grooms in the past, whose fashion was ON POINT. But we’d be naive to think that’s all of our grooms. There are a couple dilemmas we often see when it comes to grooms picking out their tux:

  • Not thinking wedding day is also about them and just settling for a black tux.
  • Wanting to step out of the box a little bit, but not quite executing the look.
  • Wanting to step out of the box a little bit, but not sure how or where to start.
  • Wanting advice, but not wanting to ask their wife to keep that element of surprise between the bride and groom.

Hiring a bridal stylist for the reasons above can take tons of unnecessary stress off of an already stressful time. Let the stylist do the heavy lifting and help you with feeling and looking your best on your wedding day. After all, grooms, this day is about you too!

3. coordinate the entire bridal party

Just as the bride and groom should compliment each other, so should the bridal party. That includes everyone, mother and father of the bride and groom, ring bearer, best man, maid of honor, groomsmen and bridesmaids. You want everyone to cohesively compliment one another.

Now that you’ve got the rundown of why it’s important to hire a bridal stylist if you’re looking for one, please email info@btseventmanagement.com. We’d love to consult you on your wedding day fashion needs.

XOXO,

BTS