“We are still getting married, but rescheduling.” How many of you can relate?  More than we would like to count, if we are being honest.

We all look forward to big celebrations and planning for life within our industry, however in recent, we have been faced with a sudden an immediate halt to everything around us.  Clients postponing, vendors shutting doors, our once go to person now not working and it seems to continue on that trend.  After this, though, we need to continue to exist.  We need to continue on with life and create those same celebrations that we all once enjoyed pre-March 9, 2020. 

While the beginning of this blog sounds very familiar to everything else out there in the news and press, at BTS we want to make sure that if you are one of those going through the back and forth of compartmentalizing all of what is happening to your very own wedding day, it is important for us to help you in this process.  That said, let’s get right to it and make sure you all know what the steps and procedures are that you need to do to make this a seamless process for everyone.

Reschedule First, Do Not Cancel!

First and foremost, talk to your partner about what you should be doing and take into consideration the health and well being of the two of you, your families and your guests.  If any of this seems a little weird and uncertain, it may be best to come up with an alternative.   Change your date, and postpone.  You shouldn’t cancel.  There is no need to do that.  Your wedding day is still super important and it needs to be celebrated.  Your friends and family members will definitely agree.

Contact Your Vendors

Inform your wedding planner if you have one.  You may feel it necessary to do some things on your own,  keep in mind that we are hired for coordination.  That means coordination of all things related to the wedding; cancelling, postponing, etc.  You are likely not the first one to be doing this so let us help you by making this a super simple and easy transition.

If you do not have a wedding planner, contact your venue to understand the policies and procedures for what is happening.   Remember, we are in a national emergency (super scary couple of words to be saying out loud – we know) so everyone is understanding.  Next is to consider a new date/dates.  Keep in mind, LOTS of dates are changing right now so you want to make sure you reach out as soon as possible.  Once you have established this, it is time to move on to your other vendors.  If they are all available, great!  If not, keep track of the conflicting vendors to see if there is anything that can be done to ensure you are able to keep them on the roster.  Ask your wedding planner for tips on what to do if not everyone is able to make the switch.

Contracts

It is important to ask your vendors for revised contracts that reflect the new dates.  This should be done so that there is documentation of all of the changes.  Do not be worried.  Be cautious in making sure that with all of the moving pieces going on within the event industry, you are protecting yourself.  Another contract to consider updating is your event insurance if you have this.

Communicate To Your Guests

After all is settled and you have landed on a new date, it is time to inform your guests.  Do not forget about them.  Though there is a lot going on, they are still wondering about your wedding.  Send out a postponement announcement via email/text/paperless post as soon as you know your new date so guests know exactly what is going on and can plan accordingly. This is similar to a save the date.  Short and to the point.  It allows guests the chance to understand what is going, make travel adjustments and inform the necessary accommodation people of the changes.

Don’t forget, keep your wedding website up to date and as current as possible.  You may need to resubscribe to the server that you have been using so that it does not expire.  Sometimes there is a timestamp on how long the sites stay active for.

After this, you will want to plan to send out another invitation closer to the wedding for rsvp’s.  Keep this simple and to the point – probably just one card including the new date and food options available for selection.  You need these rsvp’s to be as current as the first round of them.

Personal Adjustments

You are likely in the home stretch of everything, so appointments are made and booked.  Don’t forget about them.  Things such as dress fittings, facials, manicures/pedicures, tans and more have to be rescheduled.  Make sure to pick up your dress from your seamstress so that it is in your possession and no one else’s. The honeymoon is likely a standstill as well so make any necessary adjustments to these travel plans as well.

Breathe

We know, this was a lot and unfortunately, not fun at all.  Wedding planning is supposed to always be fun though, right?  Well, it will be again.  Spin it whichever way you want as long as you find the silver lining.   Find the fun in the process and the uniqueness of the situation.  At the end of the day, you were planning this day as a celebration of two lives coming together as one – we need to make sure that happens still.  We also need to make sure that the celebration continues with the people you care most about.

Cheers from afar!

Red lips; for the bold and the beautiful

A beautiful, bold, red lip is understated and underused, specifically on a lady’s wedding day.  Often times and definitely more recent, we tend to see and find our ladies flourish in a beautiful nude/pink tone lip color to seal the look right before walking down the aisle.  Why?  Well for one, comfort and two, well it’s beautiful – right?  OF COURSE!!  It is beautiful and while these next few paragraphs may urge you to open up and adventure into an undiscovered territory, it is most important for you to feel the most beautiful and comfortable on your wedding day.

As ladies who only like to venture out of our usual norm on occasion, we can totally relate but at the same time, we can totally urge our brides and others.  That said – why not venture out and be different?  Why not try something with a little more edge and a little more glam?  – like that red lipstick?

So, first, we task you, reach down, maybe way down, in that purse of yours to find that shade of red we all know everyone has and be a little adventurous.  Pair this with a fine line eye liner or even a little wing to create the boldest most refined look.  If you do this on occasion with your daily looks, then you have no excuses!

We love working with makeup artists and in chatting with a few, we found that they are dying for their brides to come to them asking for a little change up from the ordinary.

A Red Lip on your wedding day can be risky but we say that only for those who do not try it first. Take a look here at some show stopping looks and inspired by a few of our favorite makeup stylists.

Show Stopping Looks:

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makiajbeauty

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For a few of our favorite shades, we have linked them below – they are so fun!

Charlotte Tilsbury – Hollywood Lips

Boxom – Big and Sexy

Huda Beauty – Promotion Day

Don’t forget to check out our BTS page on Instagram for more wedding and fashion tips and trends!

New York Bridal Fashion Week Fall ’20 Collection

Wow. We are still catching up on sleep, work and trying to get our minds right from all the amazingness that we saw last week at New York bridal fashion week but we just can’t seem to shake it. New York in itself, is a one of a kind city. Full of dreams, lights, and people and for us, we attend for all of that, and of course, for the dresses.

 Year 3 for BTS

This year, marks our third year of attending shows, meeting designers, and drooling over elegance at its finest. We had a jam packed weekend of Runway shows and private viewings of our most favorite designers and some we never even knew before. None the less, it was an experience we will never forget and always remember.  Not to mention, we stayed at one of our favorite hotels, Dream Downtown, and had some amazing food experiences as well. (Alex and Storm love food, by the way).


The Shows:

Berta, Galia, Pronovias, Pnina and Julie Vino– you all know they are some of our favorites and boy, they did not disappoint.

This season was definitely a season of sophistication and bringing back tradition. We saw a lot of ball gowns and a lot of bows. Berta, took the conservative route and definitely scaled back on the sexy sheer look. Pnina, while typically known for her crystals and bling, brought lace, satin and bows to the show. THE BOWS! Oh how obsessed we are with the bows. Check out some of our favorite looks that we captured right from the runway.  We are in love!

Dress by: Galia Lahav

Dress by: Berta

Dress by: Galia Lahav

Dress by: Julie Vino Group

Dress by: Galia Lahav

Dress by: Galia Lahav

Dress by: MUSE by Berta

Dress by: Pronovias

One designer that hit our photo albums this weekend that completely blew us away was Tel Aviv designers, Yael Eisenberg and Heli Kalkstein, also known as Eisen Stein. These two met each other in design school and after a short 4 month design process, had created their first bridal line in 2011.

To say their dresses are gorgeous is simply an understatement. The vision the pair has, coupled with the most high quality materials of silk, lace, beading and Swarovski crystals really had our jaws drop.  One dress, was a last minute addition that took only days to produce. This dress happened to be our teams favorite. The intricacy and detail was out of this world and oh my, it was a stunner.



Dress and details by: Eisen-Stein Bridal

Any-who! To say our expectations were met, is an understatement. We had the best time, in the best city doing the best things. Wanna hear more or see more from our experience, head over to our Instagram page and check out our highlights!! 

 

5 Steps to Completely Slaying Your Wedding Vows

 

You outsource things for your wedding like your makeup and floral design—would you ever outsource your vow writing to someone? Find out how we learned how to write the perfect wedding vows from a complete stranger!

We sat down to talk with Katelyn Stanis, a wedding vow and speech writing expert. She gave us the down low on all things custom vow writing.

Katelyn started her vow writing business, Wedding Words, in 2017 and has been penning couples vows from all over the world ever since. She also works with the maid of honor to write a speech that the bride will absolutely adore.

Here are her five tips to write the perfect wedding vows, personalized and all. Be sure to check out our recent episode with her to listen to all her juicy advice.

 

Step 1: Gathering material for your vows

Have a brainstorm by spending 20 minutes jotting down any memory or emotion that comes to mind. Then circle the concepts that you want to expand on for your vows.

You can also interview yourself by asking questions and recording your answers. Transcribe the audio and use this as the basis for your wedding vows.

 

Step 2: Identify themes

Once you’ve compiled some vow writing ideas and notes, start to identify themes.

What themes stand out in your notes? Do you talk a lot about your partner’s sense of humor or their thoughtfulness? Use these themes to anchor your vows and to move the vows forward from one story to the next.

 

Step 3: Write the first draft

Now that you have an idea of what you want to include in your vows, you can write the first draft. Be sure to start by addressing your fiancé.

Then communicate details about what you love about your partner and your relationship.

Next, detail out specific promises you want to make. Lastly, close with a love-filled sentence.

 

Step 4: Edit your vows

It’s time to edit your first draft. Start by removing any unnecessary words. If you can read a sentence and it has the same meaning with some of the words removed, go ahead and remove those words. You don’t want to include anything that doesn’t add meaning and impact to your vows.

Be sure to align with your fiancé on the sentiment and tone of your vows too. The last thing you want is for your vows to be full of sweet and sentimental thoughts and for your partner to focus on just having funny wedding vows.

 

Step 5: Practice reciting your vows

The final step is to practice reciting your wedding vows out loud. Video record yourself so you can watch yourself and make improvements or recite your vows in front of your maid of honor.

Be sure to also print your vows or use a vow booklet. Whatever you do—don’t read your vows from your phone!

 

Follow these five vow writing steps and you’ll be on your way to creating personalized and perfect wedding vows.

Written By: Katelyn Stanis

katelyn@weddingwords.us

www.weddingwords.us

IG: @weddingwords.us

Sabyasachi Winter 2019

 

You might’ve heard by now, but Indian designer Sabyasachi Mukherjee dropped the 2019 Bridal Winter Collection on Instagram and we have to say, we’re definitely pleased! The new Charbagh collection is full of options for every kind of bride. From modern, bold looks to more traditional yet unique gowns, your sure to fall in love with one of the four incredibly dreamy lines (yes, that’s right. FOUR!).

 

Sabyasachi is an inclusive brand that wants to make sure his brides can relate to and we think they met the mark. Take a walk with us through the eyes of the designer and you’re sure to see that he’s pretty much thought of everyone!

 

DEVI

Designed for the traditional bride, Devi is the perfect line for women who look forward to wearing a red lehnga. As the name suggests, the gowns from this collection are fit for a goddess. Ornate gold detailing covers each piece from top to bottom, but don’t think it stopped there. Sabyasachi paired his intricate pieces with bold, traditional jewelry and we couldn’t picture it any other way!

 

NARGIS

Sabyasachi just breathed life back into us with the Nargis collection.  He imagined “a wild overgrown garden with lush flowers blooming everywhere”, straight out of a fairytale as the setting for this destination edit. With brighter traditional prints and simplistic embellishments, this collection is ideal for a fun and free-spirited bride.

 

CHOWK

For the woman who is self-assured and unalarmed by grandness, the Chowk collection is perfect for the positively defiant. Extremely detailed patterns pull these looks together and make them a bold yet understated nod to the folk cultures in India, with very minimal embellishments. The focus is definitely put on the textiles used for this line.

 

ISFAHAN

Thinking deeply about Islamic Art and the colors used, Isfahan is colored in hues that “are joyous, but tingled with pathos.” Generic colors are replaced with dusty versions on lustrous fabrics such as satin and velvet, while Muhgal motifs decorate the textiles. Using an ancient Persian art form called Zardosi, the gowns are also covered in metallic gold and silver embroidery. 

 

As mentioned earlier, Sabyasachi creates the entire picture by using his gorgeous line of jewelry. Perfectly paired, it’s safe to say that the accessories in this collection are up to par with the fashion and take the gowns to the next level. Still can’t get enough of India’s hottest bridal designer? Then you’ll be pleased to hear that there is also a shoe line! Let us know in the comments below, which collection speaks to you most. We’d love to hear your thoughts!

 

So many times we talk about what guests should consider wearing to weddings: the pretty dresses, the perfect shoes, a suit that fits oh so good, but we are almost doing you dirty if we don’t talk about what you should NOT be wearing. Can we get an “AMEN” from all the brides who were mortified by some of their guest outfit choices?

 

When a wedding is approaching, often, guests have a moment where they think to themselves, ”What the hell am I going to wear to this wedding?”  It’s true, you’ve at least done it one time in your wedding attending life. But! Have you ever thought, “what am I NOT going to wear to this wedding?” 🤔. If not, you should. Seriously. And if picking out an outfit comes too casual for you, it’s probably because YOUR OUTFIT IS TOO CASUAL!!!! Read that again if you have to.

 

C’mon people, let’s be real. If what you are wearing to someone else’s wedding is something in your everyday wardrobe, please reconsider. Better yet, reevaluate your position as this person’s friend or family member. Yes, we said it. Now, we don’t want to come off harsh, but someone has to tell you to get it together. Who is a better friend? The one who tells you about yourself or the one who lets you be reckless? Exactly! If your spouse or best friend isn’t helping you out, then you better believe we will!

 

That all being said, we are going to list out the major NO’s of wedding guest attire so you’re aware and can’t say, “Well, I didn’t know!” 😒.    Ready …. here we go!!

 

RULE #1 White. Don’t wear white. Of any shade. What. So. Ever (unless you are advised to do so). That includes, off white, eggshell, sand, candlelight, ivory, sequin GOLD OR SILVER, light grey. NONE OF IT IS ACCEPTABLE. If you have a question, just don’t wear it. You’re not the bride. Tell yourself that or have someone check you.

 

 

 

RULE #2 Do not wear sandals. Sandals, including but not limited to flip flops, Birkenstock’s, slides or any other velcro strap, Jesus versions. Ladies, anything that does not have a tiny bit of a heel doesn’t fit the occasion–fancy yourself, you deserve it and so do your feet!

 

 

Rule # 3Denim/Jeans. OF ANY SORT. Leave them at home for errands to run.

 

 

RULE #4 No Sweats. Sweatpants, Track Suits, Sweatshirts, Leggings, Athletic Wear in general (this includes sneakers too). If it looks like your going to be heading to the gym, you better have a membership cause you’re not entering into one of our weddings!

 

 

RULE #5 Shorts. Guys is it really too hard to cover up the bottom half of the leg and put some slacks on? We don’t think so. Get the pants. Put them on. And wear them at the wedding. Refer to rule no. 3 and 4 for pant options.

 

 

So, we hope we weren’t too harsh on you but these are just a FEW things we want to make sure you do not wear to a wedding. If you were to go to your own wedding, would you wear what you have on? Unless you’re reading this at a wedding and in compliance with all five of our rules, chances are the answer is no. Do yourself a favor, do your bride and groom a favor, and finally, please do us a favor. Make sure you look good. Everyone will be happy when you’re looking your best!!!

There’s nothing like a wedding invitation to get us ladies excited to dress up, but if the wedding falls on one of these cold winter months, finding a dress that’s both sexy and sensible can be tricky. Not to worry, we have some of our own tricks up our dress sleeves to help you out!

 

Fabric:

We love to see guests who use fabrics to WOW on the reception dance floor. Try an interesting fabric like crushed velvet or a dress with shimmer and shine.

 

Length:

Midi and maxi dresses are gorgeous and practical for winter weddings. You can also play with sleeve length– we love a long sleeve dress that uses texture to keep it fun and modern.

 

Cut:

You can’t go wrong with a nice plunging neckline to offset the modesty of sleeves and long skirts. We also like a classy wrap dress– the wrap style layers over itself which play well in the season.

 

Color:

You can pull off a lot of different colors in the winter but we always love to see guests wearing deeper tones or statement colors like gold or silver.

 

We’ve compiled some of our favorite winter wedding guest looks that will have you feeling fabulous without freezing. Check them out and let us know if you’ll be rockin’ something like this at the next wedding!

 

 

By now, you’ve looked through countless wedding images looking for inspiration on the vibe and style of images you’re wanting your photographer to capture. In that batch, you’ve likely seen the perfume image.

 

Whenever brides are looking for wedding day perfume, they constantly ask us which perfumes are the most visually appealing for this shot. Though the visuals of the perfume bottle can make the entire image, we encourage our brides to focus on the smell and not what the perfume bottle looks like. Here’s why:

 

Pheromones

First, pheromones. Pheromones are scent triggered hormones which stimulate sexual appetite (don’t worry, this is still a PG blog). The perfect scent can do a lot of things like enhance mood, boost your confidence, and make you feel attractive. That being said, logically, this hormone plays an important role in human sexuality and desire. Your wedding day should be your sexiest day together. Can we get an amen?  

Memory

Second, the memory. Scents are also tied to memories. Remembering how you and your significant other smell that day is so special and such a big deal we see a lot of brides take for granted. Don’t be that bride! Make the most out of this special memory. You’re already activating your other senses, why not add a sense of smell to it!

 

All of these are emotions and feelings that you want to be sure to bring out on your wedding day. And because of the importance of these emotions and feelings, we encourage you to pick a smell that checks off all those boxes. Spend the time and do your research to make your wedding day the best smelling experience. After all, this is going to be an experience of a lifetime, and if you can find the perfect scent to remind you of that, then why not!?

 

Now for the good part. The perfumes we recommend. Below are our favorites, in no particular order. They’re linked, so click the photo if you’re interested in purchasing any of these.

 

Maison Margeila Replica: Wicked Love

 

 

Spice Bomb
(even though this is a men’s fragrance, I strongly recommend It)

 

 

Jo Malone: Peony and blush suede

 

 

Alien by Mugler

 

 

Let us know if you chose one of these for your special day or if you chose something different. Be sure to let us know why! We can’t wait to hear from you.

 

XOXO,

BTS

You’ve heard it time and time again, “NEVER WEAR WHITE TO A WEDDING.” That rule is in place for obvious reasons but in case you’re new to weddings, here is the tea: white is typically reserved for the bride. There are a few exceptions to this rule: (1) You can wear white if that’s the attire the bride and groom request of their guests; and (2) If the bride asks her bridesmaids to wear white–which brings us to why we are here.

A recent trend we wouldn’t mind seeing more of is white bridesmaid dresses. Let us go on the record and say, we are here for it! We love it. We think it’s a bold statement, reserved for brides who are not worried about being outshined by their best gals alongside her–also in white–a bride comfortable that she is still the star of the show. I mean, just look at Solange. She is the perfect example. If we’re being real, we’re not sure we would let our sister wear white to our wedding if our sister were Beyonce LOL. But back to Solange. Years later, we’re still obsessing over her cape, but also that her wedding party was in white. Remember this iconic photo?

Now, that’s no shade to any bride that doesn’t choose white for her bridesmaids. This is just to say that BTS has an affinity for a bride that is willing to push the envelope a bit. We’ve compiled a list of weddings, with bridesmaids in white, we’re obsessed with. Hopefully, if you take away anything from this week’s blog, it’s that white on your big day can be done and done really well. Take a look at some of this inspo, and let us know what you think in the comments.

 

Yes, we frequent Cabo. No, we’re not dual citizens. Yes, Cabo may be one of our top five destination wedding locations. As we recap one of our most beautiful Cabo weddings, we’re about to show you why!

As destination wedding planners, we typically work hundreds of miles away from our couples and wedding locations but have been able to master systems to make this process as smooth as possible.  

A few months ago, we had a Father of Bride contact us, who was actually a guest at one of our previous weddings and desperately needed some help getting his daughter’s wedding in order.  They originally hired a company out in Cabo to handle their wedding planning and design and faced a couple of rough obstacles, which consumed a lot of their wedding planning time.

We were more than happy to step in and assist with re-doing a few things that had already been done but didn’t meet the standards of our couple, as well as wrapping up a lot of loose ends that needed tending too. This was a lot of hard work for our team but the perfect results were worth every second of It. We were able to really get to know the bride and her family and create a wedding setting and timeline for the night that fit their needs just perfectly.  

This Cabo wedding was nothing short of amazing.  With a pink, black and white color palette, we were able to design the wedding of our bride’s dreams.  Check out the images and vendors that helped make this happen below!

Vendors:

Design and Coordination: Yours Truly (@btseventmanagement)!
Photographer: @sararichardsonphoto
Venue: @thecapehotel
Flowers: @areteflorals
Rentals: @delcaboeventdesign